by Cornelius D. Jones
Some would suggest that happiness is a pleasant emotion, I beg the differ and identify it as a state of mind. For years, I have taught clients that it's more of a thought than a feeling which is driven by emotions. There are people, who believe that the fulfillment of a certain wish would create happiness in their life, by taking away their troubles. Although, happiness is not an eraser for our troubles it can certainly be the key that unlocks all of life’s self-gratifications. Happiness is a combination of how satisfied you are with your life and how good you feel on a day-to-day basis. The good news is, with consistent effort all unhappiness can be offset. In other words, you can control how you feel with consistent practice. Happiness doesn’t exist in things; it exists in the people that have chosen to activate the power of happiness.
We live in a world where people suffer from uncontrollable stresses and shortcomings. However, the reaction to those conditions helps us refine how we respond to emotions and builds character. A happy life is commonly referred to as the ability to extract satisfaction from the most common little things and in difficult conditions.
What Does Happiness Do?
To be happy, stop focusing on the lack of things that you don’t have. It is better to be grateful and thank the Universe for what you have and focus optimistically on what you want to achieve. Don't compare yourself or life to others. To become happy, you also need to calm both your mind and thinking by silencing the noise of life.
Secrets to create happiness and peace within
1) Redefine what Happiness is to you
Material possessions, money and notoriety might bring the illusion of happiness and inner peace, but true happiness and inner peace can only come from within. Neither are dependent on your possessions, status or current circumstances. Being happy with ourselves allows us to be happy even when we don’t an abundance of things.
2) Have a positive life attitude
A positive attitude allows you to have a sense of peace and internal happiness. Use an “even if” mindset on solutions and not a “what if” attitude about problems. Being problem focused limits your ability to focus on real solutions You can choose the see the problems, or you can choose to see the solutions to problems.
3) Limit the opportunity for fears
Fear and worry naturally causes stress and unhappiness. Even if your fears and worries are real, you will gain nothing of value by dwelling on them. What you will get is a lack of peace, happiness or satisfaction. The negative thoughts of what you fear may not happen but will eventually rule your mind if you don’t let them go.
4) Be a doer
Don’t just accept your circumstances. Don’t be passive, instead be an active doer. Don’t be afraid of action and challenges. Change is just a word when no action is applied. The world is filled with people that are all doing things although most haven’t done anything. Avoid becoming a member of the dreadful doing club by being a real doer.
What have you been meaning to do, but haven't had the money or time for?
Learn to do what you love, when you do so...happiness and peace will start filling your life.
5) Set a Goal, make a plan, and make it happen
Consciously, decide to change the things that you don’t like or aren’t benefiting you. You might not be able to change everything, yet, there are many things you can change in your life.
Look at changes like these as a chance to improve your life. Take one project, think about it, make plans, and start working on it. If you take this simple approach, you will notice the power you possess over your own happiness.