by Cornelius D. Jones
Understanding emotional intelligence provides us with an advantage of knowing how and when to demonstrate it. Although it is now spoken about more than in previous years, our society could truly benefit from understanding it. In short, it’s the ability to identify and manage one’s own emotions, and the emotions of others. How can we help to manage the emotions of others, when many of us struggle to do the same with our own feelings? Regardless of the setting, whether we’re in the comfort of our homes, in public, or a professional environment…as civilized people we should be able exercise emotional intelligence. There is a real need in all levels of government, corporate America, the military, law enforcement, and other sectors for training on emotional intelligence. For many people this isn't a rare talent. It requires having a set of unique skills to identify our emotions and utilize them while thinking, problem solving, and managing feelings in uncomfortable situations. Below I will discuss the components and skills in greater detail.
Individuals with high emotional intelligence are adept to using empathy and constructive communication. They naturally relate well to others and are able to accomplish more through encouragement and persuasion. They typically excel at inspiring, guiding, and leading others to achieve their best work. They tend to be flexible, adaptive, self-motivated, and confident. These are the things that separate people with high EQ (emotional intelligence) from others. As I often say, "being strategic helps to keep us to remain focused, while being emotional causes us to become distracted." Now that I have provided you with an overview, it's time for me to breakdown what the emotional intelligence components and skills are.
The 4 Components of Emotional Intelligence
There are four levels of emotional intelligence which are: emotional perception, the ability to reason using emotions, the ability to understand emotions, and the ability to manage emotions.
5 Key Emotional Intelligence Skills
2. Self – Regulation - requires you to be able to regulate and manage your emotions. While demonstrating the skills to wait for the right time and place to express your feeling. Self-regulation is all about expressing your emotions appropriately. Becoming disrespectful, shouting, and cursing at others when we are upset is the opposite of self- regulation.
3. Social Skills – affords us to build meaningful relationships with others and develop a stronger understanding of ourselves and others. Our social skills help us in daily interactions and communications.
4. Empathy - is the ability to understand how others are feeling and being present with them. This skill is critical as well because it involves being able to sense that someone is feeling sad, hopeless or frustrated. This skill allows us to be emotionally supportive as we empathize with them.
5. Intrinsic Motivation – is a significant part of being emotionally intelligent. This is when we have passions that fulfill our inner needs and goals. The things that go beyond external rewards like fame, money, recognition, and acclaim.